Tuesday, June 4, 2013

Me Before You by Jo Jo Moyes




The book club convened at the Nyack Art Café on a June 4 picture-perfect evening.  We were allotted our own private outdoor deck space in the back of the restaurant.  The cool breeze, landscaping, beautiful birds and delicious food were an idyllic setting for our discussion.  

“Me Before You” by Jojo Moyes is a love story that pairs two emotionally and physically damaged individuals who profoundly impact each other’s lives.  Will Traynor is an upper crust, high energy, successful young man who’s life comes to a crashing halt when an accident leaves him a quadriplegic.  Will gives up on life and intends to end it at Dignitas, an assisted dying organization based in Switzerland.   Louisa (Lou) Clark is a blue-collar working class young lady who lives an insular life following an assault during her early teen years.   Lou takes a job as Will’s caretaker, and their meeting promotes emotional healing and sparks an unraveling of beliefs, ingrained notions and family dynamics.  Lou is hellbent on changing Will’s mind about ending his life, and Will is on a crusade to enrich and enhance Lou’s life experience.  Love drives the sublimation of self and redirects the focus of each on the happiness of the other.   Will’s request of Lou to accompany him to Dignitas exacts a commitment Lou is ultimately able to fulfill, and Will in turn gives Lou the opportunity to live the fully-engaged life he feels she deserves.

The discussion began with an understanding of the impetus for Jojo Moyes’ decision to write about assisted suicide.  The author read about a young quadriplegic, former athlete, whose parents accompanied him to Dignitas and assisted in his suicide.  Her initial aversion to this act by presumably loving parents led to research and greater understanding.  It also evolved into a story she felt compelled to tell.  Humor, well-developed characters, and the talents of an accomplished story-teller, made for a wonderful read.

As anticipated, much of the discussion revolved around Will’s choice.  We shared stories of people in our lives who face a qualify of life similar to or worse than Will’s—and we talked of how they are coping.  Some of us felt that Will made the right choice—for him.  Others felt he should have taken the gift of Lou’s love and held fast to the hope for new scientific developments.  All of us acknowledged that such decisions are very personal and, therefore, unique to each individual.  

We also shared quoted text that evoked splendid imagry.  For example, we read about the healing powers of gardening as described by Camilla, Will’s mom.  She turned to gardening in times of stress and lonliness.  When Will came home following his accident, Camilla hoped the garden he would see from his rooms would spark thoughts of the wonders of life and renewal—thoughts that could steer him away from his intended suicide.   Similarly we read Lou’s description of her emotional and physical responses at a classical music concert—her first!  We very much enjoyed the text that told of her unbridled joy and the music’s journey through her mind and body.

In the final rounds of discussion, some said the plot was a bit too simplistic when juxtaposed against such an emotionally-charged topic. Others felt that the very simplistic telling made the heart-wrenching story more readable.  All-in-all, the concensus review of this book was positive.
                              
                                                            ----Tova A.




Tuesday, May 7, 2013

The Aviator's Wife


We all met at the Art Café to discuss our May Book Club choice “The Aviator’s Wife” written by Melanie Benjamin. We were fortunate to be able to take advantage of the lovely spring weather and seating was arranged for six of us in the outdoor section of the café. We were surrounded by blooming purple azaleas and exotic looking tulips. This book had quite a few surprises for everyone. For example, we learned that Anne Morrow was the first licensed female glider pilot and we learned that Norman Schwarzkopf’s father lead the investigation of the kidnapping of Charles Lindbergh Jr. We all agreed that the book was compelling as the author thoroughly did her homework on the background life of Anne Morrow. We discussed how Anne personally changed towards the end of the book and finally became her own person We learned about the devastating effects the kidnapping of their first child had on Anne and Charles. We discussed Anne’s life as a co-pilot, pilot and writer. Her most memorable book “Gift from the Sea”, a book about love, marriage, youth and aging which is still in print almost 50 years after it was published back in 1955. 
                                                                ---- Kay






Friday, April 12, 2013

April 9, 2013 The Light Between Oceans


 

     This past month we read “The Light between Oceans”, by M.L. Stedman. All in attendance seemed to have enjoyed reading the book. The story is a heart wrenching one, whereby the suffering of each and every one of the main characters is very strongly felt. Tom, the husband, was torn with feelings of guilt about keeping Lucy and knowing that as much as he loved the child and his wife, Isabel, he had to do the right thing and give Lucy up. Hannah, the mother, so distraught at having lost her child, yet wanting to give her back after Lucy came to live with her, because she could not stand to see her child’s misery. Isabel, as much as she was the least likable character in the book, suffered as well, due to several miscarriages. The main theme in the discussion was trying to understand Isabel’s state of mind as it related to keeping Lucy. The consensus was that it was probably a combination of living an isolated life on an island and having had miscarriages and a stillbirth which all led to her unbalanced state of mind. People felt that it was harder to get a clear picture of who Isabel really was and what she felt as compared to Tom and Hannah, whom the author described very clearly. The question came up as to what a painful dilemma an adoptive mother in our lifetime would be in, if she was in a similar situation whereby she had to give up her child to the biological mother if the situation arose. The upshot is that a mother’s love never falters for her child and it is very hard to imagine what it would feel like to have to give up your child, adopted or not, unless you were in that situation.

         ---- Sarah Aviv

 

Thursday, March 14, 2013

Our Second Meeting - March 5, 2013


This past month we read The Last Jew by Noah Gordon. Our attendance was oddly very weak; with roughly half the group at our meeting at the Art Café, we discussed some interesting questions over some fabulous food. A few in attendance loved the book, some of us didn’t finish the book and there was one person who actually detested the book. Everyone agreed the front end moved very slowly. The early part of the novel succeeded at introducing major and minor characters and set the stage for the historical novel (with rich and very accurate details), but the beginning was difficult to keep any of us gripped for the tale of Yonah which unfolds in the second two-thirds. Luckily things improved and we were able to have a lively discussion given that most of us read a significant portion of the text. We spent time to explore some of the turning events that led to Yonah’s decision to remain in Spain and perhaps how youth today might react in similar circumstances. Sadly, we all agreed that while there are good people like Nuno Fiero who helped Yonah, humanity is frail and history continues to repeat itself. We compared the events of the inquisition to those which have been witnessed throughout human history. We all felt humanity has not made significant progress since 1492 and religious persecution has occurred since and will likely occur in the future. We spent some time thinking about what an individual might do to address observed cruelty to others when we encounter such behaviors. Submitted by Bonnie

            

Sunday, February 10, 2013

Our First Meeting - February 5, 2013


Eleven of us met for the first time in the back room of The Art Cafe in Nyack to discuss In The Shadow of the Banyan by Vaddey Ratner. It was wonderful that everyone except for Mira was able to attend. The first half hour was spent getting to know each other by introducing a person the least known to one another, finding what the two people had in common, and divulging something about the person we could NEVER tell by just looking at them! I'm so excited to be in a book club with all of you ladies! Now I've also learned where to get great seltzer, and where to get free tennis lessons for breast cancer survivors -- what an eclectic group!

We discussed many of the issues and themes from the book - family, survival, betrayal, atrocities. Thanks to our discussion, I grew to like the book better, even the slow beginning. As an ESL teacher, I am so impressed by Vaddey Ratner's writing ability - the author arrived in this country as age 11, and this is her first novel! The book inspired me to learn more about this evil time, The Khmer Rouge, which though I lived through it as a teenager, I really knew nothing about it.

Thank you everyone, for being a part of this great new book club!

XXOO
Robin